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ramreddy
10-01-2010, 10:35 PM
I have a marriage on the rocks, that I need to fix back in India and I hope it turns out a quick divorce. We have land disputes in Hyderabad because we are tenants of and older style land lord system. My parents do not want to give up business and want to stay in India. They feel that US is like a 'sweet jail' . As of now I can get a job paying me 2X of what I am making now , if I leave my current GC sponsoring employer. I got GC already . Now I am in a dilemma - I have interests in Hyd that I have to take care of to give my parents relief as well as I dont want to loose status. So I am thinking of working only 6 months and stay in India.
How many of you have similar situation - need not be the same - buy round about same and how do you manage it ? what newer opportunities have to taken (e.g. some business ) after GC that will enable you to spend time equally between both countries....
please throw in your ideas ...friends ....

uma001
10-02-2010, 02:00 PM
I have a marriage on the rocks, that I need to fix back in India and I hope it turns out a quick divorce. We have land disputes in Hyderabad because we are tenants of and older style land lord system. My parents do not want to give up business and want to stay in India. They feel that US is like a 'sweet jail' . As of now I can get a job paying me 2X of what I am making now , if I leave my current GC sponsoring employer. I got GC already . Now I am in a dilemma - I have interests in Hyd that I have to take care of to give my parents relief as well as I dont want to loose status. So I am thinking of working only 6 months and stay in India.
How many of you have similar situation - need not be the same - buy round about same and how do you manage it ? what newer opportunities have to taken (e.g. some business ) after GC that will enable you to spend time equally between both countries....
please throw in your ideas ...friends ....


Buy a cheap condo..Do buy n sell stocks .This way you can stay in india as many months as you want.

narendra_modi
10-02-2010, 02:21 PM
I have a marriage on the rocks, that I need to fix back in India and I hope it turns out a quick divorce. We have land disputes in Hyderabad because we are tenants of and older style land lord system. My parents do not want to give up business and want to stay in India. They feel that US is like a 'sweet jail' . As of now I can get a job paying me 2X of what I am making now , if I leave my current GC sponsoring employer. I got GC already . Now I am in a dilemma - I have interests in Hyd that I have to take care of to give my parents relief as well as I dont want to loose status. So I am thinking of working only 6 months and stay in India.
How many of you have similar situation - need not be the same - buy round about same and how do you manage it ? what newer opportunities have to taken (e.g. some business ) after GC that will enable you to spend time equally between both countries....
please throw in your ideas ...friends ....


Chu**a...

ArkBird
10-02-2010, 03:17 PM
I am confused. What your "rocky marriage" has to do with your business in India and maintaining status in US?

Let's focus on your problem of maintaining status. If USCIS notices pattern in your stay in US and determines that you don't have significant ties to US (Nope! Mere property in US is not considered "significant tie"), you will be asked to surrender your GC

I have a marriage on the rocks, that I need to fix back in India and I hope it turns out a quick divorce. We have land disputes in Hyderabad because we are tenants of and older style land lord system. My parents do not want to give up business and want to stay in India. They feel that US is like a 'sweet jail' . As of now I can get a job paying me 2X of what I am making now , if I leave my current GC sponsoring employer. I got GC already . Now I am in a dilemma - I have interests in Hyd that I have to take care of to give my parents relief as well as I dont want to loose status. So I am thinking of working only 6 months and stay in India.
How many of you have similar situation - need not be the same - buy round about same and how do you manage it ? what newer opportunities have to taken (e.g. some business ) after GC that will enable you to spend time equally between both countries....
please throw in your ideas ...friends ....

blacktongue
10-02-2010, 03:45 PM
I have a marriage on the rocks, that I need to fix back in India and I hope it turns out a quick divorce. We have land disputes in Hyderabad because we are tenants of and older style land lord system. My parents do not want to give up business and want to stay in India. They feel that US is like a 'sweet jail' . As of now I can get a job paying me 2X of what I am making now , if I leave my current GC sponsoring employer. I got GC already . Now I am in a dilemma - I have interests in Hyd that I have to take care of to give my parents relief as well as I dont want to loose status. So I am thinking of working only 6 months and stay in India.
How many of you have similar situation - need not be the same - buy round about same and how do you manage it ? what newer opportunities have to taken (e.g. some business ) after GC that will enable you to spend time equally between both countries....
please throw in your ideas ...friends ....


You are ether an actor or someone with some disorder. Looks at the past threads you have written:


Strange Situation - need Help . I-94 and Passport Stolen

Salary pending for 4 months desi bloodsuckers Plz Help!! DOL complaint

Can we buy a gun to protect our family with pending AOS?

Out of country for 4 months - How can i save my 485 ?

going back in India while 485 is pending

Campaign for justice for Ruchika

is it worth waiting or should I go to India.EB2 badly conjested

eb3retro
10-02-2010, 06:31 PM
first thing first, I think you need to up your medication..

I have a marriage on the rocks, that I need to fix back in India and I hope it turns out a quick divorce. We have land disputes in Hyderabad because we are tenants of and older style land lord system. My parents do not want to give up business and want to stay in India. They feel that US is like a 'sweet jail' . As of now I can get a job paying me 2X of what I am making now , if I leave my current GC sponsoring employer. I got GC already . Now I am in a dilemma - I have interests in Hyd that I have to take care of to give my parents relief as well as I dont want to loose status. So I am thinking of working only 6 months and stay in India.
How many of you have similar situation - need not be the same - buy round about same and how do you manage it ? what newer opportunities have to taken (e.g. some business ) after GC that will enable you to spend time equally between both countries....
please throw in your ideas ...friends ....

h1techSlave
10-02-2010, 08:40 PM
I think your wife has taken the right decision to divorce you.

I have a marriage on the rocks, that I need to fix back in India and I hope it turns out a quick divorce. We have land disputes in Hyderabad because we are tenants of and older style land lord system. My parents do not want to give up business and want to stay in India. They feel that US is like a 'sweet jail' . As of now I can get a job paying me 2X of what I am making now , if I leave my current GC sponsoring employer. I got GC already . Now I am in a dilemma - I have interests in Hyd that I have to take care of to give my parents relief as well as I dont want to loose status. So I am thinking of working only 6 months and stay in India.
How many of you have similar situation - need not be the same - buy round about same and how do you manage it ? what newer opportunities have to taken (e.g. some business ) after GC that will enable you to spend time equally between both countries....
please throw in your ideas ...friends ....

ramreddy
10-03-2010, 01:19 AM
@narendra_Mody that Lund calling himself after modi ....
Chu**a...
old Chinese saying...a picture is better than thousand words......

ramreddy
10-03-2010, 01:31 AM
old Chinese saying...a picture is better than thousand words......


You are ether an actor or someone with some disorder. Looks at the past threads you have written:


Strange Situation - need Help . I-94 and Passport Stolen

Salary pending for 4 months desi bloodsuckers Plz Help!! DOL complaint

Can we buy a gun to protect our family with pending AOS?

Out of country for 4 months - How can i save my 485 ?

going back in India while 485 is pending

Campaign for justice for Ruchika

is it worth waiting or should I go to India.EB2 badly conjested

ramreddy
10-03-2010, 01:40 AM
Uma and Ark
I appreciate ur help sirs. Ur probably Americans disguised as desis..... can 't be desi's ....who come down to their blood. You are the 2 lone souls who dont fit the "desi " stereotype.
-- hypocrites
-- back stabbers
-- opportunists.
-- leg pullers
I have seen them 9 years ....all 9 yards, though I happen to be a desi too. ( No I don't feel proud .....u can call me whatever...I care a fig's worth )

Nonetheless, lets come back to your points....

I think that is a good idea...I can delve into this further. The ones I have are doing reasonably well. About Property - I had thought of it but prices could slump down further , so gotta hold my finger there .
My parents are not well...and I don't think I can stay and work in US more than 6 months probably lesser than that . I read there was some option to stay out of US for like 2 years with permission. Maybe do something like that ....if I cannot afford to spend time there .
I know in theory ..USCIS can cancel green card if you remain in US for a short time etc etc but In reality how frequently have they pulled up GC holders....I wonder...



Buy a cheap condo..Do buy n sell stocks .This way you can stay in india as many months as you want.

PHANI_TAVVALA
10-03-2010, 10:14 AM
Uma and Ark
............ I read there was some option to stay out of US for like 2 years with permission. Maybe do something like that ....if I cannot afford to spend time there .
I know in theory ..USCIS can cancel green card if you remain in US for a short time etc etc but In reality how frequently have they pulled up GC holders....I wonder...



You can apply for a reentry permit and be out of U.S for up to 2 years. But I don't think you can keep repeating this forever though.

ramreddy
10-03-2010, 01:04 PM
@PHANI_TAVVALAThanks again....
I am not getting a clear direction for the Green Card holder "Ambitious plans" because we have assets in India and situations that we have to attend to that need attention to and parents can't be at the brunt of it..till those are resolved..I am just "pulling on"..... and want to pull on 6 months here ...if situation permits me to and work 6 months remotely or find some job there .......that way I can be besides them.
I was not able to rephrase my point too well.....and invited some mood spoiling assholes here..... getting Greened is Celebration for the single man ..who wants to build his family ..and has no other worry from across the shores .....and whose family in India is "ready to join in" minute you say come here ...but that same Green Card is a family breaker .....when it pulls just you like a magnet and not your entire family ( except for your wife whom you can file for ) and then it becomes a "tale of 2 countries " ....till the time , you decide one one place.
the reason I opened up this thread was to see how many people were in similar situation...what ultimately happened to their situations ...and how did they manage this situation in the interim.

ramreddy
10-03-2010, 01:13 PM
old Chinese saying...a picture is better than thousand words......

first thing first, I think you need to up your medication..

ramreddy
10-03-2010, 01:17 PM
old Chinese saying...a picture is better than thousand words......
I think your wife has taken the right decision to divorce you.

vegasbaby
10-04-2010, 12:58 AM
Ok. You can certainly opt for a one time AP for 2 yrs that way you can stay back in India.

If you live in Dallas area or if you can call there is an attorney who answer all your questions. I think its 7:40-8:30 every Tue & Thurs & Sat 3 - 4. # to call is 972-235-5555

Munna Bhai
10-04-2010, 02:59 AM
I am in same boat as you. I can understand what you say. We have very few choice except visiting few months to India and keeping some emergency contacts. I am also from Hyderabad and my mother stays alone there. Until now she managed alone, she is breast cancer patient. I am very helpless, I wake up in the middle of the night and think endlessly how to handle this situation & every morning I go to office with a heavy heart.

ramreddy
10-04-2010, 10:21 AM
I am in same boat as you. I can understand what you say. We have very few choice except visiting few months to India and keeping some emergency contacts. I am also from Hyderabad and my mother stays alone there. Until now she managed alone, she is breast cancer patient. I am very helpless, I wake up in the middle of the night and think endlessly how to handle this situation but every morning I go to office with a heavy heart.

Munna -Thank God I am not alone ....I thought many people must be facing this situation. After all we are not from Cuba or Costa Rica where there the socialist economy has given nobody anything more than hope of coming to US....and 1 person gone to US means everyone else is ready in wait, bags packed.
I DO HOPE and Pray that your Mom gets better and fights it back successfully . BTW if it helps, there is an 'errand' service provided by yourmaninindia ( check out their website ) that will handle common tasks , where u can prevent your Mom's running around when there is no one.
So how long have you been working on GC part time in US ( how long since your GC) ...and how much time you spend in 1 year in US . Do you have your own home there.
Is the GC revoke a real fear or they understand that if you pull just 1 fellow with a GC, its hard to manage.
If Mom's health is all your concerned about you can still manage to get her on Business Visa and have her take her India Medication there . Try for 2 months and see how it works out. One thing - get an apt in 100% desi area if/when that happens...else it will be boring and useless for her .
Any other things - to note about managing the "tale of 2 countries" ..let me know
.

buddyinsd
10-04-2010, 05:55 PM
Now that ur divorce is almost coming thru and u "THINK" that u r an american and not like a "desi", u shud re-marry, this time an American citizen (like a blonde), become a citizen and then u can go to any country and stay there for any amount of time. No one will bother u. Wow man, u even applied for a divorce and following the footsteps of a typical American!!!

After becoming a citizen u can even ask ur "own white baby" who's already a kid to your future American wife to pose with the middle finger up on both of its hands and post that picture instead of some copied jpg as u r doing now.

And finally u can boast of ur "achievements" with ur Reddy community.

Good luck!!!

eb3retro
10-04-2010, 06:06 PM
u forgot one other thing, he can also boast his F***IN talent in English, because he is an american. Look at his writing..You will know from where he is and where he belongs to.

Now that ur divorce is almost coming thru and u "THINK" that u r an american and not like a "desi", u shud re-marry, this time an American citizen (like a blonde), become a citizen and then u can go to any country and stay there for any amount of time. No one will bother u. Wow man, u even applied for a divorce and following the footsteps of a typical American!!!

After becoming a citizen u can even ask ur "own white baby" who's already a kid to your future American wife to pose with the middle finger up on both of its hands and post that picture instead of some copied jpg as u r doing now.

And finally u can boast of ur "achievements" with ur Reddy community.

Good luck!!!

buddyinsd
10-04-2010, 06:23 PM
LOL yes...I forgot that :)

Awesome English as well...way to go "American" Reddy :D

u forgot one other thing, he can also boast his F***IN talent in English, because he is an american. Look at his writing..You will know from where he is and where he belongs to.

ramreddy
10-04-2010, 07:49 PM
Now that ur divorce is almost coming thru and u "THINK" that u r an american and not like a "desi", u shud re-marry, this time an American citizen (like a blonde), become a citizen and then u can go to any country and stay there for any amount of time. No one will bother u. Wow man, u even applied for a divorce and following the footsteps of a typical American!!!

After becoming a citizen u can even ask ur "own white baby" who's already a kid to your future American wife to pose with the middle finger up on both of its hands and post that picture instead of some copied jpg as u r doing now.

And finally u can boast of ur "achievements" with ur Reddy community.

Good luck!!!

I must really commend your ability to type using a Braille Keypad.....( ahh.. I do 'see' you are BLIND ) ..but I would suggest before you talk in "ur language"...Please go through the previous threads...what my point was ...and what I was looking for ....whether I consider myself an American or its the other way around that's happening.
Another cousin idiot of yours, thinks that my wife initiated my divorce as per the previous post in this thread...... and now you think I did. One of em have to be true . But like I said when 5 blind men start thinking about what an elephant would look like..they'd run into many problems.
I didn't quite think of marrying a "blonde" ...but really compared to this :
Fight Against misuse of Dowry law (IPC-498a) - Get Free Advice and protect against 498a (http://www.498a.org)
marrying anyone from anywhere other than "Mera Bharat Mahan" is a blessing . Now go talk to some one who can "see"..ask him to read you the contents of the above link. ...and then ask him to read this thread ...and explain what it means ...and then come back to me.....

The purpose of my thread was to gather experiences of people who are on a Green Card and still have some form of ,attachment to /interest in, India ( be it any reason ) that will need them to remain there , rather than stay here full time. You can't follow such a simple thing so now I have to say it black and white. Unless you have something substantial to add , get the f**k of my thread
I am not an ass**le on bench ,like the 'blind' men on this thread , trying to pick on other people's writing style and surnames ... you have a problem with Reddis ? , take up in Hyderabad...with whoever you had a fight ...I am not 'that' Reddy .

dealsnet
10-04-2010, 08:15 PM
If you need to be with your parents, you can take reentry permit and leave USA. You can take permit upto 2 years. If you have received green card before 6 months and working with the sponsering employer, you can resign and go any where. Not necessary to work in USA. You are a free bird. What is your problem ?
You can on and off with the job of your interest.
read this http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.eb1d4c2a3e5b9ac89243c6a7543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=3f443a4107083210VgnVCM100000082ca60aRCR D&vgnextchannel=3f443a4107083210VgnVCM100000082ca60a RCRD
Maintaining Permanent Residence

You may lose your permanent resident status (green card) if you commit an act that makes you removable from the United States under the law, as described in Section 237 or 212 of the Immigration and Nationality Act (INA) (see the “INA” link to the right). If you commit such an act, you may be brought before an immigration court to determine your right to remain a permanent resident.
Abandoning Permanent Resident Status


You may be found to have abandoned your permanent resident status if you:

* Move to another country intending to live there permanently
* Remain outside of the United States for more than 1 year without obtaining a reentry permit or returning resident visa. However, in determining whether your status has been abandoned, any length of absence from the United States may be considered, even if less than 1 year
* Remain outside of the United States for more than 2 years after issuance of a reentry permit without obtaining a returning resident visa. However, in determining whether your status has been abandoned any length of absence from the United States may be considered, even if less than 1 year
* Fail to file income tax returns while living outside of the United States for any period
* Declare yourself a “nonimmigrant” on your tax returns

ramreddy
10-04-2010, 08:15 PM
u forgot one other thing, he can also boast his F***IN talent in English, because he is an american. Look at his writing..You will know from where he is and where he belongs to.

Ha ha ...Its not so difficult to follow why USCIS made the EB3 Category and why its so badly behind... ( with due apologies to, people Unlike you who did 'nt deserve to be there but are waiting with you ) .......they knew a lot of ass**les who would want to come here squatting ( and make more assh**les :D ) .....but still ...I wish you good luck...good luck like....I wish your grand children will get to celebrate your Green Card's arrival ( again due apologies to other unfortunates who are standing in line with a moron - its not meant for them )
The purpose of my thread was to gather experiences of people who are on a Green Card and still have some form of ,attachment to /interest in, India ( be it any reason ) that will need them to remain there , rather than stay here full time. You can't follow such a simple thing so now I have to say it black and white. Unless you have something substantial to add , get the f**k of my thread
I am not an ass**le on bench ,like the 'blind' men on this thread , trying to pick on other people's writing style and surnames ... you have a problem with Reddis ? , take up in Hyderabad...with whoever you had a fight ...I am not 'that' Reddy .

ramreddy
10-04-2010, 08:26 PM
If you need to be with your parents, you can take reentry permit and leave USA. You can take upto 2 years. If you received green card before 6 months and working with the sponsering employer, you can resign and go any where. Not necessary to work in USA. You are a free bird. What is your problem ?
You can on and off with the job of your interest.
Ok thanks for giving me the clarification. I will if situation needs me - use that 2 years option but to keep things 'going' I preferred just 6months here and there and though I know in theory USCIS can do anything to your Green Card if you have been back and forth number of times...in practice how often it happens and the experience of people who do 6 months back and forth to India , what they do to reinforce their status. I am sure there must be MANY people in that situation because GC is for YOU not your family , and unless you toil it for 5 more years ( can be more if you stay partly ) and be citizen - you cannot get anybody other than spouse to US.
Wanted to know how people handle this kind of situation.
Thanks DealNet again for helping me our with the clarification